Research is clear on one of the most important findings in divorce psychology: it is not the divorce that puts children at risk. It is the conflict surrounding it.

You do not get to control the outcome of conflict. Not in divorce, not in co-parenting, not in any relationship where another person has a stake in what happens. Your ex-partner gets a vote. Your co-parent gets a vote. And your children, whose stakes are the highest of anyone's, get a vote too.

Divorce is often framed as a legal process. In reality, it is also a physiological and emotional transition. When routines shift and predictability disappears, the nervous system reacts. Sleep changes. Emotions intensify. Decision-making feels heavier. This is not weakness. It is biology. At Holistique, we approach divorce through a prevention lens: Regulation, Structure, Support. Divorce may be a chapter. It does not have to become your identity.

On Language, Capacity, and What We Call Ourselves There are certain words we use so often that we stop questioning what they carry. They become shorthand. Convenient. Familiar. And sometimes, quietly limiting. For me, “single parent” is one of those words, or terms... This is not a critique of anyone who uses the term. Language is personal, contextual, and often deeply earned. But over time, I’ve noticed that this particular label no longer reflects how I understand myself, m